Trust me, if they had said anything overt, I'd be out the door. My company is very "lawsuit averse" - so they're very careful about what is actually said. It hasn't been anyone in my direct management chain, it's been my "mentor" - she keeps trying to get me to change how I dress, etc., talking about people's "impressions" etc. I'm just tired that it's all anyone can say about how for me to "achieve." It's OK, I still plan to finish my book, go on Oprah and be famous. :)