On a completely different note, I thought about something you wrote the other day:
5) If I offer to help you in some way, and you refuse my generosity, our friendship won't last.
This made me think, once very many years ago, you offered me something for my birthday. Shopping trip? Something or other and I never took you up on it.I've always been highly conscience of appearances in some respects and I think I was afraid that if I accepted your gift that it would give you the impression that I was only your friend because of what I could possibly get out of it. So I decided that I would never bring it up or remind you of it because I wanted you to know that we were friends in spite of such things.
Reading what you wrote made me realize I was a bit selfish and yes, ego-tistical then. You were trying to be nice and genuinely offer me something that at the time you were happy to provide and I didn't understand that.
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5) If I offer to help you in some way, and you refuse my generosity, our friendship won't last.
This made me think, once very many years ago, you offered me something for my birthday. Shopping trip? Something or other and I never took you up on it.I've always been highly conscience of appearances in some respects and I think I was afraid that if I accepted your gift that it would give you the impression that I was only your friend because of what I could possibly get out of it. So I decided that I would never bring it up or remind you of it because I wanted you to know that we were friends in spite of such things.
Reading what you wrote made me realize I was a bit selfish and yes, ego-tistical then. You were trying to be nice and genuinely offer me something that at the time you were happy to provide and I didn't understand that.
So, I feel like I owe you an apology for that.
*hugs*