You can hold two or three people in your hand? Wow. Let me say just how much I agree with you about at least one thing. I do not like going somewhere unless invited. A friend of mine is having a party and everyone I know is there, I would not go unless I was specifically invited. It could certainly be an oversight, but I would rather miss something like that, than to appear pushy, or to feel unwelcome. I have actually changed quite a bit from my college days of distant and unapproachable. So, this attitude often leaves me on the outside, looking in. Do I begrudge people for not asking me to join in, for not working to make me feel included? No, I sure don't. At one time I would resent people that were friends for taking me for granted, or keeping me segregated from their other friends, and the like, but now, I guess I try to not be so judgmental, and take whatever a person is offering. I don't really have any suggestions what to do for your friends that you feel exclude you from the happy parts of their lives. Try to be positive and invite people to the important times in your life, and what you are doing. If they choose not to be a part, the offer was freely given. In a stream of consciousness sort of way, I have this to say. I had a thought on my wedding day that didn't get fully formulated until I was at my grandmother's funeral. Who do you invite to your wedding? And really, who do you invite to share your life with you? Not in marriage, but a strong friendship is a personal commitment similar to marriage. I found myself thinking that you should invite everyone that would be at your funeral. These are the people that are affected by your life, and should be there for the good and the bad. Okay, enough morbid stuff from me, back to the jokes. Just how big are your hands?
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Date: 2002-12-15 07:51 pm (UTC)Let me say just how much I agree with you about at least one thing.
I do not like going somewhere unless invited. A friend of mine is having a party and everyone I know is there, I would not go unless I was specifically invited. It could certainly be an oversight, but I would rather miss something like that, than to appear pushy, or to feel unwelcome. I have actually changed quite a bit from my college days of distant and unapproachable.
So, this attitude often leaves me on the outside, looking in. Do I begrudge people for not asking me to join in, for not working to make me feel included?
No, I sure don't. At one time I would resent people that were friends for taking me for granted, or keeping me segregated from their other friends, and the like, but now, I guess I try to not be so judgmental, and take whatever a person is offering.
I don't really have any suggestions what to do for your friends that you feel exclude you from the happy parts of their lives. Try to be positive and invite people to the important times in your life, and what you are doing. If they choose not to be a part, the offer was freely given.
In a stream of consciousness sort of way, I have this to say. I had a thought on my wedding day that didn't get fully formulated until I was at my grandmother's funeral. Who do you invite to your wedding? And really, who do you invite to share your life with you? Not in marriage, but a strong friendship is a personal commitment similar to marriage.
I found myself thinking that you should invite everyone that would be at your funeral. These are the people that are affected by your life, and should be there for the good and the bad.
Okay, enough morbid stuff from me, back to the jokes.
Just how big are your hands?